I used Grammarly to grammar check this post because I used to have a cheat-sheet while playing Mad-Libs and still can't remember the difference between an adverb and adjective.
Happy Monday everyone! Okay, maybe not totally happy Monday. Classes are back in swing today, and I am feeling the gut-twisting nerves of the start of another semester. That being said, I may be a bit slower on blog comments until things slow down around here :) (Insert slightly neurotic laugh here...slow down...hahaha...)
Okay, anyhow, I have something I thought I'd bring up to chat about, mainly because I have a R&R on a manuscript that brought up a point that hadn't occurred to me (I should have, don't know why it didn't, but whatever). Basically, it deals with how the characters deal with grief. Somehow I always end up writing books with grief-stricken characters (why is that? Seriously, I don't know what that says about me), and there are the textbook stages of grief that can really help demonstrate their ability to handle what's happened to them. I read a lot about this when I wrote Colors, but it was interesting to go back and revisit.
Now, I'm definitely not a psychologist (I like to study dead people, thank you very much) so this is sort of the cliff-notes version of what I gleaned online. Generally, people tend to have about 5 stages of the grieving process, either due to death or other massive life-changing event. They don't always go through all five, and not in any particular order, and they can shift back and forth between them as time goes on. In general, the stages are:
- Denial and isolation
- Anger (both at self and at the person who died/did whatever)
- Bargaining (an attempt to regain control of the situation in some way)
- Depression (sadness and regret)
- Acceptance (usually with some withdraw and calm)
So, I've been going through my manuscript, adding in a bit more emotion to highlight some of the grieving stages the characters might be going through. The thing I keep coming back to is how each character must face these steps (or skip them) based on their personality. It's not a one size fits all kind of thing, and everyone faces grief different--even fictional people :)
|Bonus if you can remember the Simpsons|
take on the five stages!
Here's my question for you: have you ever used the five stages in your writing? Can you think of a movie or book that has? (I totally have a list of movies I can think of that use these stages!)